I love a good, contentious, sexy issue to dive into.Two amazing women got in touch this week, and I am stoked to share their stories for Labor Day! Women in the Labor Force need our pants, and here are two examples why. Then I'd like to share some thoughts about just *who* is responsible for bringing the lube, or 'getting wet,' and how we phrase this when talking about sexual health.
Gabby (above) is a high-rise window cleaner in Vancouver BC, also currently hiking the Pacific Crest Trail. She says —
“Working in a harness makes it *very* difficult to go to the washroom with ease, and your leggings are perfect for me."
Women need equal access to bathrooms, whether they are working up high and don't want to take their harness off to pee, driving a semi-truck and need to use a funnel to go in a bottle, or working in a warehouse and need to use the urinal!
We received another hilarious message and sketch from Anna who works in a warehouse. She relayed this to me in real-time; it exemplifies the resentment that women feel for being marginalized for so long, possibly with even a bit of a playful vengeance —
"oh man oh man oh man. Your product just came in handy in the funniest way.
I work in a warehouse. We have only one bathroom, a unisex one with one urinal and one stall.
I came in to work this morning and the stall was padlocked and covered in caution tape. The toilet isn't working and the plumber can't come until tomorrow. But the urinal still works.
I was wearing my Chickfly pants, and I've read your manuals on how to pee standing up and do it without needing paper, so I was able to use the urinal no problem.
But that's not even the best part
I have this annoying male coworker who was making jokes about the situation
"Bet you wish you were a guy, huh? Guess you'll have to hold it!" He said
"don't think about water" so I told him "Don't think about pouring cement"
And now he has to poop!
I'm using all his jokes on him and I'm enjoying his discomfort... I have WAG bags in my car, but I'm not sure if I wanna give him one... should I?"
(I encouraged her to share the WAG bag, which is a sanitary bag one can poop in)
And if you think that going to the bathroom on the job for a able-bodied woman might be hard, try doing it when you have a physical disability too!
Chickfly is for Every Body!
Get Your Pants On!
Who Brings the Sauce
This is about getting wet.
I was watching an interview with a female urologist last night about sexual health. She was all about sex-positivity and myth-busting, but then re-inforced one that bugged me, so I thought I would do some myth-busting myself.
When speaking about getting wet, we generally think of it as a female thing. Sure, men might have a little pre-cum, but generally they aren't wet, right? Wrong, an intact penis has excellent lubrication, both externally and internally.
The doctor was encouraging women to use large amounts of lube, to avoid discomfort during sex, and also talking about how, around menopause, there is less natural lubrication. The interviewer was a man, and up until this point the conversation had generally centered around the penis, so it wasn't as if she was just talking to us gals.
She was trying to be positive about using healthy amounts of lube to avoid painful sex, which is great, but there is an assumption that a properly functioning vagina gets wet enough for two, or that if there isn't enough lube, it is the woman's dry vagina that needs help.
Stop putting all the getting-wet responsibility on women!
I am frustrated she did not mention that, due to circumcision, males don't bring the natural lube to the situation that they would normally bring. This is why there is so much unwanted friction! In case some of you haven't been with intact men, this is how it works —
The penis has a sheath that goes all the way up the shaft and over the head of the penis. When erect, this slides back, and there is generally a wet situation underneath. When circumcized this mucus membrane is dried out and no longer gets 'wet.' Internally, the penis also provides lubrication because the skin (which has not been foreshortened due to circumcision), slides up and down the shaft on internal lubrication. When circumcised, this skin is tight and doesn't slide.
Combined, these two sources of wetness inherent in a man's natural penis make the initial entry into the vagina much smoother and super easy on the woman, as well as provide extended, non-stop lube due to the internal function of the skin sliding over the shaft (Jesus, I sound like a penis commercial).
Essentially, the penis has been disabled, so now we all need lube.
There are multiple reasons why this is important to discuss, but one reason is that women feel shame for not being adequately wet, about getting old, dried out, not juicy, etc. We are not responsible for managing the lube!
I don't want to shame men for having less functional cocks, but let's be honest about what is happening!
Well, that's my contribution to the gender wars. I will pray for peaceful resolutions and happy, wet sex for everybody!
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