Who Brings the Sauce

This is about getting wet.

I was watching an interview with a female urologist last night about sexual health. She was all about sex-positivity and myth-busting, but then re-inforced one that bugged me, so I thought I would do some myth-busting myself.

When speaking about getting wet, we generally think of it as a female thing. Sure, men might have a little pre-cum, but generally they aren't wet, right? Wrong, an intact penis has excellent lubrication, both externally and internally.

The doctor was encouraging women to use large amounts of lube, to avoid discomfort during sex, and also talking about how, around menopause, there is less natural lubrication. The interviewer was a man, and up until this point the conversation had generally centered around the penis, so it wasn't as if she was just talking to us gals.

She was trying to be positive about using healthy amounts of lube to avoid painful sex, which is great, but there is an assumption that a properly functioning vagina gets wet enough for two, or that if there isn't enough lube, it is the woman's dry vagina that needs help.

Stop putting all the getting-wet responsibility on women!

I am frustrated she did not mention that, due to circumcision, males don't bring the natural lube to the situation that they would normally bring. This is why there is so much unwanted friction! In case some of you haven't been with intact men, this is how it works —

The penis has a sheath that goes all the way up the shaft and over the head of the penis. When erect, this slides back, and there is generally a wet situation underneath. When circumcized this mucus membrane is dried out and no longer gets 'wet.' Internally, the penis also provides lubrication because the skin (which has not been foreshortened due to circumcision), slides up and down the shaft on internal lubrication. When circumcised, this skin is tight and doesn't slide.

Combined, these two sources of wetness inherent in a man's natural penis make the initial entry into the vagina much smoother and super easy on the woman, as well as provide extended, non-stop lube due to the internal function of the skin sliding over the shaft (Jesus, I sound like a penis commercial).

Essentially, the penis has been disabled, so now we all need lube.

There are multiple reasons why this is important to discuss, but one reason is that women feel shame for not being adequately wet, about getting old, dried out, not juicy, etc. We are not responsible for managing the lube!

I don't want to shame men for having less functional cocks, but let's be honest about what is happening!

Well, that's my contribution to the gender wars. I will pray for peaceful resolutions and happy, wet sex for everybody!